The anti-daters criticize the practice of dating for several reasons. First, the believe that dating is essentially practice for divorce, in which conflict causes the couple to break up. They believe the temporary nature of dating is the heart of the problem. I completely disagree with this view. Dating allows us to figure out what qualities are important to us in a partner. If you don't date, you don't know how to be in a relationship, and that can also lead to divorce. Also, other than an arranged marriage, there is no way to get married without dating first. You have to meet someone and get to know one another first in order to get married and have a loving relationship. If you follow what the anti-daters say, that would imply that the first person you meet in a romantic way has to be the one you marry in order to avoid dating and "practicing for divorce."
Those who support dating say that dating prepares us for a successful marriage in which we know how to treat one another. Also, they say that dating offers possibilities for personal transformation not found in other relationships. I agree with this; I believe dating is essential for building a successful relationship. I don't see dating as against God's story of love. I think it's in line with building successful, loving, faithful relationships.
The anti-dater's point of view is very opposed to the modern dating culture. Young adults often feel pressured to be in relationships and worry about finding someone to spend their life with. Dating is such a crucial part of being a young adult in his/her 20s. It is one of the main social activities.
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